The last few years I have quite literally turned into a grumpy old woman! It wasn’t deliberate, it just sort of creeped on. So I’m doing something about it.
It’s easy when you are busy with children, work and life in general to fall into a bit of a misery rut! I know I certainly have. In the last few years I have found myself increasingly focussing on all the things going wrong in my life. The truth is I actually have a lot that goes right and I should be thankful for. So I’ve been employing a few methods recently to try and kickstart my sunny disposition!
Somewhere along the way I stopped listening to music. I’m not sure why, maybe not wanting to wake a finally sleeping baby or just because life just became so busy. So recently I’ve been listening to much more music, and trying to make it as upbeat as possible. Not going to lie, I do fall into the melancholy. You can’t beat a bit of George Michael’s I Can’t Make You Love Me to bring on a waterfall from your eyes. That can be just as healthy though to be honest. On the whole though I try to listen to music that will influence my mood and make me have a good old boogie around the lounge!
I am a sugar addict! The sweeter the better for me but it shows in my skin and definitely on the scales. So I’ve started to be much more mindful of what I eat. I’ve tried to increase my fruit and vegetables. It has definitely made me feel less bloated and less dragged down if you know what I mean. Exercise is definitely something I am working on. Sugar is very aging though and at this time in my life, I don’t need anything that’s going to help the aging process.
Challenging my Negativity!
I’ve just started to do this. Every time I have a negative thought, I consciously replace it with a positive one. I’ll admit it’s not easy. Sometimes I give in to the negative thought and have a major wallow. I’m hoping that it will become second nature, and that eventually having that positive thought will natural, rather than my default negativety. They say it takes 21 days for something to become a habit, I’ll let you know!
Change your life!
It really is true that you are the master of your own destiny. If there is something in your life that is making you unhappy, change it. If you are in a job you hate, change it. I don’t mean go to work tomorrow and hand in your notice with nothing to go to. Start job hunting, start studying anything you might need for your dream job. Don’t listen to other people who might try and bring you down. If YOU don’t try, then you will never know! Changing your life is never easy, but surely it’s better than living a miserable life? So as you know I left a job that was making me unhappy, and have put a few pokers in the fire of late. We’ll see which one burns brightest!
This really relates to the above. I think it’s so important to just be you. Don’t live your life to please other people, or seek other peoples affirmation. Be true to yourself, live the life you want to. It’s taken me the best part of 40 years to realise that I am essentially a people pleaser. And that doesn’t always make me happy. So this year one of my promises to myself was to live the life I want. Now admittedly I’m not quite sure what that life is just yet, but whatever my next move in life will be the one I want.
And lastly, just smile. Even if you don’t feel like it. A smile attracts other smiley people and good moods and positivety are infectious!